Afraid of missing out? You might have FOMO.
Do any of these sound familiar?
1. FHE is about to start, but you see on social media that your two best friends are at an awesome concert.
2. You’re at a surprise party for your friend, and a bunch of people leave early to go to another party with a DJ and a swimming pool.
3. You glance at the clock during Mutual and realize your friends are heading to the park to play basketball right about now.
4. You’re running around at soccer practice, thinking about how your family is at the movies without you.
How do you respond? Do you:
A. Post a selfie and brag about what you’re doing.
B. Feel slightly hurt and left out, but don’t say anything.
C. Complain and obsessively check your phone.
D. Choose not to worry about it. You’re happy doing what you’re doing.
If you picked D, you’re on the right track. But whatever you picked, your FOMO has a cure!
“Much has been said about how ‘fear of missing out’—or FOMO as it is often referred to—can make it difficult for us to appreciate our current circumstances and environments,” said Elder David A. Bednar of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles.
“This is especially true as people tend to share only the best parts of their family lives and careers with us on social media. I invite you to embrace what the Lord has blessed you with and to act in faith. Do not take counsel from your fears.
“To not take counsel from our fears simply means that we do not permit fear and uncertainty to determine our course in life, to affect negatively our attitudes and behavior, to influence improperly our important decisions, or to divert or distract us from all in this world that is virtuous, lovely, or of good report.
“To not take counsel from our fears means that faith in the Lord Jesus Christ overrules our fears and that we press forward with a steadfastness in Him.”
Do you have FOMO? Don’t worry! There are many ways to get over FOMO. Here are a few ideas:
1. Recognize it.
- When you start getting that FOMO feeling, step back for a moment.
- Realize that those feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and unhappiness are a product of FOMO and that they’re not unusual.
2. Make the choice to be present.
- Remind yourself that what you’ve committed to do is important, and think about why it makes you happy.
- Read “Good, Better, Best” by Elder Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles (Oct. 2007 general conference). It will help you remember that while lots of things are good, certain things are most important.
- Pray for Heavenly Father’s help to overcome feelings of FOMO.
- Feeling anxious? Read Isaiah 41:10; Psalm 46:1; D&C 6:33; D&C 50:41.
- Think about whom you’re helping by being present.
3. Enjoy the blessings of keeping your commitments, such as:
- Feeling the Spirit and having peace and comfort.
- Knowing you’re doing what Heavenly Father wants you to be doing.
- Getting closer to family and friends.
- Gaining more confidence in making decisions.
- Feeling happier while carrying out your commitments.
- Realizing what’s most important in your life.
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